Resources

Whether you have ADHD yourself or are supporting someone in your life with ADHD, let these resources help you. Reach out to me to get started transforming your life using these resources and more customized support.

  • Body Doubling: Body doubling is a technique where having another person present helps increase productivity. Learn more about body doubling.

  • Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria is an intense emotional response to perceived — or actual — criticism, failure, or rejection. For people with ADHD, it's not just feeling hurt. It's a full nervous system activation that can feel completely overwhelming, and it's one of the most misunderstood parts of the ADHD experience.

    Why it happens:

    By the time most people with ADHD reach adolescence, their nervous system has already processed tens of thousands of pieces of feedback suggesting "you are not enough" — corrections, criticism, perceived failures, and social misreads. Over time, the brain doesn't just remember these experiences intellectually; it encodes them neurologically. That's why insight alone doesn't fix RSD. You can know, rationally, that you didn't ruin everything — and still feel like you did.

    How RSD shows up:

    RSD looks different for everyone, but some common patterns include:

    • Avoiding or completely shutting down after perceived criticism

    • Over-explaining or defending yourself in ways that feel urgent and hard to stop

    • People-pleasing to head off rejection before it even happens

    • Replaying interactions on a loop and being really hard on yourself afterward

    • Porous boundaries — because saying "no" just feels too risky

    • A desperate need to fix or repair a relationship right now

    Why you can't just think your way out of it:

    When RSD kicks in, the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain handling logic and reasoning — goes offline. Cortisol spikes. Heart rate shifts. A shame spiral floods in fast. Trying to reason your way through it in that moment doesn't work, because your brain isn't in logic mode anymore. It's in survival mode, trying to restore a sense of safety.

    This is why the work starts with regulation, not reflection. Slow exhale breathing, pressing your feet into the floor, hands gently on your chest — these aren't fluffy suggestions. They're how you bring your nervous system back online before anything else is possible.

    What moving through RSD actually looks like:

    The goal isn't to eliminate RSD — it's to build the capacity to feel it without abandoning yourself. That means practicing the difference between accountability and identity: "I made a mistake" instead of "I am a failure." It means catching the urge to over-apologize or fire off a three-paragraph email, and pausing to ask: "Is this repair, or is this panic?"

    Worthiness isn't positive thinking. It's something that gets built through repetition — small moments of staying present, not over-correcting, not spiraling into rumination. Each one rewires something. The timeline is slow, and that's normal.

    The win isn't "I never feel RSD." The win is: I can recover without self-annihilation.

  • Boundary work in the context of ADHD refers to the intentional practice of setting and maintaining personal limits around time, energy, tasks, and relationships — and it's especially important because the ADHD brain naturally struggles with the very mechanisms that make boundaries possible.

    Why it's particularly challenging with ADHD:

    The executive function deficits central to ADHD — difficulty with impulse control, time blindness, emotional dysregulation, and working memory — make it hard to recognize when a limit has been reached, remember commitments already made, or follow through on saying "no" even when you mean it. This often leads to chronic overcommitment, burnout, and guilt.

    Why it matters so much:

    • Reduces overwhelm. Without boundaries, tasks and obligations pile up in a way that's especially paralyzing for the ADHD brain, which already struggles to prioritize.

    • Protects energy. People with ADHD often expend far more mental energy on basic tasks than neurotypical people, making intentional rest and limits on demands non-negotiable.

    • Supports self-trust. Successfully holding a boundary — even a small one — builds confidence and counters the shame narrative many people with ADHD carry.

    • Reduces rejection sensitivity fallout. RSD (rejection sensitive dysphoria) can make saying "no" feel catastrophically risky. Practicing boundaries in low-stakes situations helps build tolerance for that discomfort.

    Practical starting points:

    Because willpower and in-the-moment decision-making are unreliable with ADHD, the most effective boundary work tends to be structured and pre-decided — setting a rule in advance ("I don't check email after 7pm") rather than trying to make the call in real time. Scripts help too: having a go-to phrase like "Let me check my schedule and get back to you" buys time before the impulse to say yes takes over.

    Boundary work isn't about being rigid — it's about creating the structure that lets the ADHD brain function with less friction and more sustainability.

  • If you've ever paid a late fee on a bill you completely forgot about, impulse-bought something you didn't need, or avoided opening your bank app because it just felt like too much — you're not broken, and you're definitely not alone. For people with ADHD, financial struggles are incredibly common, and they're rooted in how the brain works, not a lack of effort or intelligence.

    What's actually going on:

    ADHD is fundamentally a dopamine regulation issue. Dopamine fuels motivation, follow-through, and executive function — the exact things you need to stick to a budget, pay bills on time, or resist an impulse purchase. The prefrontal cortex, which handles planning and self-control, also operates differently in the ADHD brain, making it harder to prioritize, manage time, and think ahead.

    The result? It's not that you don't know you should be saving. It's that your brain genuinely struggles to execute consistent money habits when the payoff is somewhere far in the future.

    What the ADHD tax actually costs:

    The "ADHD tax" is the term for all those cumulative, avoidable costs that pile up over time — late fees, overdraft charges, impulsive purchases that blow the budget, subscriptions you forgot to cancel, missed opportunities to invest or use benefits in time. And beyond the financial hit, there's the emotional cost: the shame spiral of "why do I keep doing this," the anxiety of avoiding your accounts, the exhaustion of constantly feeling behind.

    These challenges are also not equal for everyone. If you're already on a tight budget, a single missed bill or late fee hits a lot harder. Untreated ADHD, limited access to care, and workplace environments that aren't ADHD-friendly can all make the tax significantly heavier.

    Why willpower isn't the answer:

    Our financial systems — banks, bill pay, budgets — were designed for neurotypical brains that can reliably remember due dates, resist impulses in the moment, and stay motivated by delayed rewards. That's a tall order for an ADHD brain. Beating yourself up for struggling in a system not built for you isn't productive. Understanding why it's hard is where change actually starts.

    What actually helps:

    The good news is that with the right structure, finances can go from one of your biggest sources of shame to something that feels genuinely manageable. Three principles tend to make the biggest difference:

    Create dopamine along the way. Don't wait for motivation to show up — build it in. Give yourself a micro-reward for checking your accounts, gamify your savings goal, or use a budgeting app that shows visual progress in real time. Small wins feed the brain.

    Reduce cognitive load. The less your brain has to remember or decide in the moment, the better. Set up autopay for recurring bills. Schedule a weekly "Money Monday" to handle everything at once instead of sporadically. Use phone alerts, whiteboards, or whatever external system keeps the remembering out of your head.

    Connect money to what matters to you. Abstract goals like "save more" don't stick. Rename your savings account your "Freedom Fund" or your "Trip to Portugal Fund." Work with a coach or accountability partner so you're not navigating this solo. Make it visual and personal — when finances feel meaningful, the ADHD brain actually engages.

    Financial success with ADHD isn't about more discipline. It's about designing a system that works with your brain instead of against it.

  • Anxiety often coexists with ADHD because our brains are consistently inconsistent.

    Some effective anxiety reducers are:

    • Sleep:

      • Adequate sleep improves emotional regulation, helping you pause and create space before reacting. Christina offers tips and tricks for better sleep.

    • Going for a Quick Walk:

      • Research suggests that moving your eyes side-to-side while walking can calm the amygdala, which is part of the limbic system that regulates the autonomic nervous system (ANS). Pairing eye movement with physical activity can help suppress the amygdala’s fear response.

    • Do an “Exercise Snack”

      • An “exercise snack” is a short burst of exercise typically less than 5 minutes. Try doing a quick round of jumping jacks or high knees. Doing this gets your heart rate going and releases positive endorphins into your system.

    • Box Breathing

      • Box breathing is a technique in which you breathe in, hold, breathe out, and hold while envisioning creating a ‘box’ with your breath. You can check out a video explanation here.

    • Walking Meditation

      • Meditation is a powerful tool for calming both the mind and body. Many people with ADHD assume meditation isn’t for them because sitting still and focusing can feel nearly impossible. However, meditation doesn’t have to mean sitting in silence. Walking meditation is a fantastic alternative for ADHDers. It involves going for a walk and focusing on simple, sensory experiences—your breath, the rhythm of your steps, the sounds around you, and the colors in your environment. It’s an active, accessible way to enjoy the benefits of mindfulness.